Don’t be an ass

October 16th, 2012 by Agent Kevin Miller

donkey

ass
noun
1. a long-eared, slow, patient, sure-footed domesticated mammal, Equus asinus,  related to the horse, used chiefly as a beast of burden.

Did you get that?

A domesticated mammal used chiefly as a beast of burden.

Here in Rockies where the ‘West was won’ you’ll find many photos of donkeys with burdens of heavy supplies on their backs. You’ll also see many horses. There are many stories of horses, even memorials. Now, horses were capable of carrying basic supplies too, but it seemed a waste when they are capable of so much more! Such as transporting messengers with vital information at high speed over long distances and carrying riders into battle. Donkeys were used like a tool while horses were vital for life, and beloved.

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I have seven children. Someday they will leave home to live their own lives. They will have to work to earn a living and pay the bills, that’s for sure. In doing so, they have two choices:

Be a Tool: They’ll devote their lives doing ‘whatever’ to merely earn a wage in order to pay the bills.

Be Vital for Life (lives): They’ll devote their lives to a cause and a purpose and a passion and either earn their income from directly doing it, or earn it on the side to support the primary cause (like Paul in the Bible making tents).

The crux is this…somewhere along the line in our culture, it became more ‘responsible’ to be a Tool. A replaceable, uninspired cog in the wheel. And terms like:

  • Chasing your dream
  • Doing what you want
  • Enjoying your work

…have become defined as a luxury.

Check out these resources…the picture and caption to the right and the video and book excerpt below. You decide.

As for me, one of my devotions is to my kids. My quest for them is to remain undomesticated and devote themselves to being vital for life. To do whatever it is which makes them whole and fully alive and vital, even if it results in circumstantial hardship, pain and even death. I don’t care to find them safe, secure and ‘living the good life’. I want them leaning on faith, risking much and ‘living a worthwhile life’.

That cliche’ quote attributed to William Wallace, “Everyone dies but not everyone truly lives” has never been more critical.

Please take a moment to review these sources…they are worthy. Very worthy.

“What if money was no object?” – A 3 minute lecture by Alan Watts.

“Vocation” – book excerpt from Frederick Buechner

Like “duty,” “law,” “religion,” the word “vocation” has a dull ring to it, but in terms of what it means, it is really not dull at all. Vocare, to call, of course, and a man’s vocation is a man’s calling. It is the work that he is called to in this world, the thing that he is summoned to spend his life doing. We can’t speak of a man’s choosing his vocation, but perhaps it is at least as accurate to speak of a vocation’s choosing the man, of a call’s being given and man’s hearing it, or not hearing it. And maybe that is the place to start: the business of listening and hearing. A man’s life is full of all sorts of voice is calling him in all sorts of directions. Some of them are voices from inside and some of them are voices from outside. The more alive and alert we are, the more clamorous our lives are. Which do we listen to? What kind of voice do we listen for?

Photo by steve goddard
  • www.plowmansfarm.com

    Excellent!

    • http://www.freeagentacademy.com Kevin Miller

      Thanks Jennifer & Charlie!

  • http://scottkantner.com Scott Kantner

    The video is absolutely killer. I do have one question though…is the beast shown above burdened with glorious purpose? ;)

    • http://www.freeagentacademy.com Kevin Miller

      Oh man…using my posts against each other. Drat!

      • http://scottkantner.com Scott Kantner

        We cherry-picked the Avengers CD last weekend just to find the quotes you mentioned!

        • http://www.freeagentacademy.com Kevin Miller

          Ah, that is great. I watched the whole thing twice and don’t know I ever will again. But yeah, worth it for those quotes.

  • http://www.MamaSaysNamaste.com NamasteMamaRose

    This is brilliant. I love the quote. There is a balance between being a good steward of your money and embracing life in the day to do. I don’t want to be in a position where we fight to pay the bills, but living life in pursuit of the almighty dollar definitely creates potential for you to miss out on the true beauty of living!

    • http://www.freeagentacademy.com Kevin Miller

      Thanks Sister! True…there is a balance. I know some close to me would often desire me to lean more on the side of a dollar…and justly so. But at the end of my days, I know my greatest regret won’t be how much money I made or saved, but how much life I made and lives I saved, eh?!

  • http://seekoutwisdom.blogspot.com Joseph Iliff of SeekOutWisdom

    Kevin, I think this is a profoundly interesting topic. That question, “What if money were no object?” gets me thinking. The contrarian in me quickly responds, “But, money is an object.” I can see it, touch it, gather it, and even destroy it. It really does exist, and must serve some purpose. Zig Ziglar says it is not as important as oxygen, but might be a close second. There is something unrealistic about never considering how your actions do or do not affect your finances.
    But, I love where I think you are going, which is the idea that one has the greatest potential to earn money by not trying just to earn money. If money is the applause of a customer well served, than one makes money by being of service. The more people you serve, the more valuable your service, the more money you’ll make, so long as you keep focusing on the service, and not the money. And you have the greatest power to serve others when you have a passion that fuels your actions, a passion beyond earning money or mere survival. So, if you hear a call to be great at something, to render great service to others, and can develop the abilities to do so, worry not about the money. It will show up in great measure as one part of a full life.

    • http://www.freeagentacademy.com Kevin Miller

      Really interesting commentary Joseph…thank you. I think the failure comes from this being an either/or proposition, regardless of how it plays out. Yes, most who find true purpose and inspiration in their work end up making more. But my primary point is that of course we must make money. And of course we must devote ourselves to a greater purpose beyond money. It’s a yes/and issue, but we’ve lost this in our culture at large. I’m calling to the other side…trying to bring balance!

      • http://seekoutwisdom.blogspot.com Joseph Iliff of SeekOutWisdom

        Absolutely. In everyone’s life there is “burden work”, something we’d rather not do, and it is easy to fall into an attitude of dreading it. But, if we can see it as part of something larger and more meaningful, we can make it tolerable, even enjoyable. I feel sad for those for whom all the work they do is just burden. Those who have bigger goals see work as so much more than just about money.

  • Tim

    Was just flown out to Colorado, where they wanted me to be a “tool”. Didn’t get the job, which is probably just as well.

    • http://www.freeagentacademy.com Kevin Miller

      Well…good then.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1026054025 Wendy Sutter-Staas

    Geez Kevin, this is full of conviction. Especially what Alan Watts says (summarized), “It is better to live a short life doing something great, then a long life doing something you hate” — I know that I don’t hate what I do. . . but sometimes I wonder if I am on the perfect right track with what I want to do. . . why do I say this?? Because I don’t feel the energy and excitement like you, Justin and others have. . .I feel exhausted and sometimes completely burnt out and I have barely gotten started. I was thinking about my life last night and was like “What is it that I have added that has me so completely overwhelmed” — and I couldn’t pin point just one thing. . . Could it be that I am a new mother. . . that I am trying to launch a business. . .while I have another business that I don’t want anymore and not trying to grow — yet, I continue to be blessed with phone calls and landing new clients. . .I am trying to be grateful in it — just wish my passion would monetize. It is hard to walk toward your vocation when it takes so long for it to monetize. Then sometimes I look at what I am doing and I say, “Is this busy work — or is it productive for growth???” — ugh. . . probably a little of both. It is exhausting running in your vocation. . . however, double edge sword —- not walking in your vocation is worse. . .you may be making ‘easy money. . . because the owner does the work to find the work and all you have to do is help him” — however, you are sick, tired, burnt out and feel zero reward. . . like you are just the ‘ass’ in life — dreaming you were the ‘horse’. . .

    I know you have posted about being and ass before. .. however, I remember I said I want to be the ass. :) lol — you used it in a different context. This time I want so badly to be a horse. . .but feel like I am a wild stallion that is so unconditioned, so wild, that it is hard to tame me long enough to be productive. .. I just keep running wildly in the fields. . . impossible to be productive. :( Free Agent Academy has done wonders to tame this wild horse. . . but I have such a long way to go.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1026054025 Wendy Sutter-Staas

      I talked to Rosemarie, John Dimare’s wife today — and she was really encouraging. The frustrations I feel with this profession are VERY normal and she said the second guessing I am experiencing will happen from time to time. . . she feels it still and she has attended over 200 births. That is so encouraging.

      I know in my heart of hearts I am doing the right thing. . .I have just been working too much and resting too little. . .I need to stop that. :)

      Feeling encouraged and ready to MOVE!!

      Love this Community!!

      • http://www.freeagentacademy.com Kevin Miller

        Hey sister. You wrote this, “I don’t feel the energy and excitement like you, Justin and others have. . .I feel exhausted and sometimes completely burnt out and I have barely gotten started.”

        Ask Teri. How often does she feel ‘exhausted and completely burnt out’ being a Mom to our 7 kids? Me too. And how often do I feel ‘exhausted and completely burnt out’ with Free Agent Academy? Way too often.

        But that’s not the measuring stick.

        The measuring stick is that Teri still cares. I still care. I can’t…NOT CARE. Again, I’m not about ‘work that’s fun’. I’m about work that matters to YOUR HEART.

  • http://www.facebook.com/vstewart36 Vanessa Moran Stewart

    Great post. And as I read the definition of an ass, two words stood out because they describe me….slow and patient. So does that make me an ass? Not in itself. But I’m doing work that I don’t love just to make a dollar. It seemed like the responsible thing to do. The good news is that I no longer want to be the beast of burden. I want to be the horse. I want to live a vital and deliberate life. I’m taking steps in that direction. Thank you Kevin for opening my eyes and providing a fantastic resource in FAA.

    • http://www.freeagentacademy.com Kevin Miller

      This is inspiring Vanessa. I’m with you!

  • MidwestCoasting

    I like the post… my first one I have seen being new to FAA. A couple thoughts from my own experiences… the search for finding your passion or calling from God can be tough and consuming! I love the question about “if money was no object…” and ponder that often and personally struggle to be certain of an answer for myself. Several I interact with are so consumed with figuring out their own paths, that they put a whole lot of stress on their families and those around them… this needs to be tamed and watched out for. I struggle with where selfishness comes into play here and finding “balance” as noted a couple times below. I would also question weather “balance” is truly achievable. I look at is more as finding a “rhythm” to your life where you can better handle or work through times of “unbalance”. I am all about finding your calling… I feel looking to God for the answer is the correct path and to learn to quite your own thoughts and your own will so he can speak to you and show you your path, which he does have laid out for everyone! I do have to work hard an keeping my own will at bay!

    • http://www.freeagentacademy.com Kevin Miller

      Thanks for posting. You bring up lots of issues. I’ll admit I’ve put stress on my wife and family by not just submitting to a j-o-b for money. I get your point…but I’m also not here just to give my kids a plush, easy life. I wrote about this a couple weeks ago: http://freeagentacademy.com/calling/the-best-gift-you-can-give-your-kids-failure/

      As for balance…I’m not a believer in it. Most remarkable achievements come from being fairly out of balance. Everyone seeks to NOT rock the boat, not risk, stay balanced. Yet we are drawn to stories about people who did remarkable things…out of balance. The trick is finding ways to manage what gets the short end of the stick. That’s what I hire others for.

      I read your comment in today’s show. “Looking to God and being silent,” yes. Though often I see the need to listen to our hearts…where we’re already hearing what God has told us.

  • http://christopherbattles.net/ Christopher Battles

    “Ass” and Zen in one episode. Oh my! :)
    What comes to mind is a monkey wrench can hammer and if it is a good one it can do it all its life, but it find some bolts/pipes it will be able to do what it is designed for and utilize all its parts.

    Another thing that came really caught my attention is how you get your internet. Your business relies on the internet and many would move/find a different way to do this calling, but you ran the cable down the hill.

    Good general topic. We can carry a heavy load with our burdens or we be a horse and get to really ride.
    Gracias Kevin.

    K, bye

    • http://www.freeagentacademy.com Kevin Miller

      I dig your ‘monkey wrench’ analogy Christopher. Really good.

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  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Teri-Miller/100000244322626 Teri Miller

    Such great conviction. It’s so easy to just blow thru my days dealing with the urgent busy-ness before me, instead of pursuing things of value.

    • http://www.freeagentacademy.com Kevin Miller

      As you well know…me too.

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