Many of you are probably like myself, and far too hard on yourselves. We all need more…grace. For ourselves and others.
So first, take a deep breath. And repeat, “I’m good enough. I’m smart enough. And doggone it, people like me.” – Stuart Smalley
Seriously, you are amazing. Me too.
WITH THAT SAID…
This is not about who you are as a whole. You do a ton. More than most probably. But…regarding your work…
I want to focus on our frustration. As I write, I’m focusing on my own.
Right here, right now, I’m betting you have a fairly decent measure of frustration inside of you, if you get real about it.
- You are not OK with things as they are.
- You have a viable vision or desire to pursue, to not only make your life better, but probably to help others make their life better.
But the days and weeks and months (and maybe years) tick by and…CRAP!
You want to go after it, or you want to want to go after it.
“I don’t do what I want to do and I do what I don’t want to do.”
– Paul, in Romans 7:19 (the Bible)
Life is hard, the days are full, you’re tired and overwhelmed and not sure if you really believe “IT” can happen for you.
This isn’t just a DO MORE message, though. Those rarely work, and the secret sauce may be…doing less. Less of the stuff that doesn’t matter and doesn’t add up to anything.
LET’S FEEL THE FRUSTRATION
Slap it on the table and be pissed at it. “UGH!” What’s gonna give!
IT…will never, ever happen for you. Only YOU…will happen to IT.
“There are two types of pain you will go through in life, the pain of discipline and the pain of regret. Discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.” ― Jim Rohn
And that’s what we face. Coming to the point of “Damnit, I’m doing this!” And making the changes to do so. Daily changes. Stopping something(s) to do something else. Today, tomorrow, every day for months…whatever it takes.
This is what happens to people who finally lose weight and get fit after so, so long. They may lose a pound or ten here and there, then gain it back. For years. Then finally, they get sick of it. Something snaps. And they go after and achieve the desired change.
Again, this isn’t about ALL of you. We’re focusing on vocation. And looking to harness what I’ll call ‘Divine Disgust’.
ASSIGNMENT: WHAT ‘PAIN OF DISCIPLINE’ MUST YOU TAKE ON?
Literally. If we were talking about a weightloss/fitness focus, you might say you have to:
- Join a health club
- Hire a personal trainer
- Find a workout buddy
- Throw everything out of your pantry and adopt a new diet. Not just for a time, but forever.
- Give up some ‘good’ activity in your life, in order for this ‘great activity to happen.
For your free agent vocational pursuit, what must happen? What must change?
You probably know it. “I’m gonna HAVE to do this if anything is ever going to change or progress.” Or “I’m gonna HAVE to STOP doing this if anything is ever going to change or progress.”
What is it? What do you think it might be…and probably is?
“Forget your former failures, and don’t consider your past history. Listen to me, I will do a new thing, now it shall happen; will you recognize and believe it? I will make a road in the wilderness or your life, I will give you opportunity amongst your busy life, weak will, lack of faith, uncertainty and fear.
– Isaiah 43:18-19 (totally, possibly near blasphemously, paraphrased to help make my point. Hopefully I won’t get struck by lightening)
So what is it? What’s gotta change or happen for you?
And for some quick, comic relief to accompany this heavy topic…”TO THE PAIN!”