Want a New Year of necessity, pleasure or significance?

December 27th, 2012 by Agent Kevin Miller

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For the next six days, variations of offering ‘Happy New Year!’ will be passed around somewhere around a billion times. It’s a simple well-wish and nice gesture. But words matter. We rise or fall by them and the meaning behind them.

So with our thought and intent subconsciously bent on having a ‘happy’ New Year and hopes for a happier year than the last, is it really what we want?

Happiness is primarily a momentary feeling. A grand feeling! But momentary and generally based on our immediately present circumstances. The masses of our culture are primarily focused on this momentary happiness. Life is generally separated between:

1.  Activities of Absolute Necessity
2.  Activities of Momentary Pleasure

Only a small percentage is generally devoted to:
3.  Activities of Long-term Significance

Examples of Absolute Necessity

  • Personal hygiene – we brush and shower and shave
  • Work – for most, there is little meaning in work other than making a buck and giving us a vocational label and possibly some status
  • House keeping – laundry, dishes, vacuuming
  • Maintenance – from homes to cars to groceries
  • Family – facilitating school, activities and so much more

Examples of Momentary Pleasure

  • Eating junk food – anything primarily taken in for taste only, with little nutritional value and possibly even harming us
  • Mindless media – watching and listening and reading just for entertainment. Measure this by discerning what redemptive, lasting benefit you received from the time, or did it merely ‘pass’ the time?
  • Non-necessity shopping – just buying for buyings sake
  • Talking about people – whether celebrities, co-workers, family… (“Great people talk about ideas. Average people talk about things. Small people talk about other people.”)

Examples of Long-term Significance

  • True rest – not filled with media or merely sleep, but clearing the mind and seeking peace
  • Serving others from your unique giftings – not just doing anything, but serving in a way that is unique to what you specifically have to offer
  • Working toward personal change – not just reading, listening and watching, but having pen in hand or fingers on keyboard and applying it to yourself and committing to new actions, activities and behaviors and thus…a better reality
  • Radical, irreversible actions – quitting a job, moving cross country, making a large investment

You can make your own lists according to where you see your personal necessities, pleasures and significance. These are just a quick smattering of examples.

Think about the past year. The days, weeks, months…the whole year. Is it fair to bet most of your time, possibly ALL OF YOUR TIME, was spent on Necessities and Pleasures? And very little was spent on Significance?

The bad news? You’re not alone. You’re in good company. Yeah…that’s bad news.

The good news? You can be in GREAT company and drastically alter your life if you’ll simply increase the time you spend on Activities of Significance by 5%. You don’t have to be brilliant. You don’t really even need to be that smart (I can personally testify to this). You just have to devote consistant time and effort to it.

IMPORTANT: The necessities of your life and entitled yearnings of your flesh will not let up. Make an effort toward Significance and they will actually seem to increase!

You decide which wins. Circumstance…or Conviction.

So here’s wishing you, a Significant New Year!


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  • James

    Thanks, Kevin. This will help me focus through this transition to the new year!

    • http://www.freeagentacademy.com Kevin Miller

      Me too James!

  • http://www.facebook.com/Velexia Celia Triplett

    This comes very timely for me. My mother, grandmother and I are working on our yearly ‘List of 100 Goals for 2013′. Maybe I’ll be able to crank out a few more item on my list with all this in mind!

    • http://www.freeagentacademy.com Kevin Miller

      That’s excellent Celia!

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1026054025 Wendy Sutter-Staas

    This is wonderful encouragement!! I have decided 2013 is going to be full of change — wonderful change!! Just like every year for the last 4 years :)

    • http://www.freeagentacademy.com Kevin Miller

      Change is the most worthy goal of all!

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Teri-Miller/100000244322626 Teri Miller

    So great.
    Yes, pursuing an intentional new year!

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=549113262 Jared Angaza

    Great stuff bro. I think the “status quo” is typically fully consumed with Absolute Necessity and Momentary Pleasure. That’s what defines it/them. But you only discover the extraordinary when you put your focus on Long Term Significance.

    All three are necessary, but the more I focus on Long Term Significance, the more I find peace and fulfillment, even amidst the craziness that comes with the journey.

    This year is my year to create a daily meditation habit. A serious stretch for me, but a worthy journey for Long Term Significance.

    • http://www.freeagentacademy.com Kevin Miller

      thanks for the comment Bro. Yeah…meditation…being still…so hard for me. Let me know how it goes

  • http://www.workyouenjoy.com/ Adam Rico

    Man Kevin, you articulate the heart of the matter like no other. It is so easy to spend time in the Absolute Necessity because you get an immediate reward (typically) and our culture supports and praises being “put together”. No one will ever blame another for spending time doing absolute necessity things. Although those things are needed, they are not necessarily the most rewarding. When I have been able to work on items of long term significance it has been rewarding beyond words. My plan going into 2013 is to spend discretionary time on items of long-term significance and my wife have put things in place to make that happen. I could comment on so many parts of this post, but I’ll leave it at that. Great post Kevin!

    • http://www.freeagentacademy.com Kevin Miller

      thanks so much for your encouragement Adam! Yep…it’s so natural to just be reactive to the now.

  • http://christopherbattles.net/ Christopher Battles

    …because words do matter.
    I enjoy looking at common used phrases and words and asking why they used and how they can be changed or improved. A simple example is “great morning” instead of “good morning.”
    Hears to a significant year to you also!

    K, bye

    • http://www.freeagentacademy.com Kevin Miller

      Thank you Christopher!

  • redeemingcarolyne

    “Serving others from your unique giftings – not just doing anything, but serving in a way that is unique to what you specifically have to offer”
    That is a very powerful statement! If we are willing to tenaciously seek out His will for our lives and persevere in what God has called us to do when we do it………we will far exceed anyone’s expectations!!!

    • http://www.freeagentacademy.com Kevin Miller

      As always…this comes from my constant learning, usually from hard knocks.

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