You need drastic change and you are capable now
November 20th, 2012 by Agent Kevin Miller
A couple days ago I did my daily headlines check to see if anything really important was happening. Not much to report there. But I did happen to see a headline letting us know some Hollywood starlet had shed 60 lbs. Again.
Normally it wouldn’t have even registered. However, I’m in the midst of a fairly rapid and drastic change which helped me see it with different eyes. And gave me respect for the girl. To lose that much weight in a short amount of time is impressive.
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It’s easy to discount, “Sure, if I could hire a personal trainer and spend 2 hours a day in the gym…If I could afford all the healthy food…If I was paid millions for a movie role, then sure, I could do it.” It’s not really fair though. Whether you are poor or rich, only your personal resolve can enable you to eat less calories than you burn. So really all we’re saying is this girl is more motivated by money and results. Hmmm. So if I paid you, then you’d put down the M&Ms?
But my personal story that made it relevant is lifting weights. I’m an endurance junkie and don’t enjoy standing still and lifting heavy things that cause me pain. When I run or ride at 9,000′ above sea level I get somewhere, see the sights, feel the wind in my hair. However, at 6′ I was close to dipping below 155lbs. My core wasn’t strong, lifting heavy stuff around our house and property wore me out quickly, I had shoulder and back pain from old cycling injuries and my wife wasn’t as thrilled with my ‘slight’ physique. What was the future for me? A thin, bent over, frail old man. A big pair of lungs in a skeleton.
I’m not OK with that picture. I want to hoist my great grandkids onto my shoulders when I’m 85 and help my kids build a house. I had to start now. So…I did. I knew the morning from about 7-8am was available time. While helping my four little kids get breakfast and keep them quiet for the rest of the family, I could workout amongst that.
123 days later, significant change. It’s been hard. So often I didn’t want to do it, but I feared if I quit, I would just backslide and lose it all. I just made it routine, like getting coffee in the morning. Most folks won’t miss their fave TV show, I don’t miss my workout now. The increase in my strength, the lack of aches and pains, and the way my wife looks at me…I’m sold. Even my teenage kids are kind of shocked, “Daddy’s buff!” It’s a new world. After only 123 days of consistency. Well, and a lot of wincing.
So all the Hollywood stars and celebrities and the drastic body transformations they go through…it’s pretty darn impressive. There may be better looking and more talented people out there, but they just aren’t able to commit to necessary ‘drastic change’. And they don’t make the cut.
What about you and your desire for change in your life? We usually go after change in our lives in little bits. Just try to add a bit here and there without disrupting things. It doesn’t work. Any decent change comes from some drastic efforts. Some life disruption. And you’ve done it before, it was just probably reactive instead of proactive. It happened to you instead of you happening to it. You took a 2nd job to pay the bills and lived a crazy life for a while. You decided to get a degree on the side of your day job and added a ton of time and work into your life. You had a kid and had sleepless nights for a long, long time. You got laid off and moved into a house with family with too many people in too little a space. Or worse. And you made it.
If you want a different reality for your life, you just need to happen TO IT. Maybe for the first time. Proactive. Drastic. I love drastic. I’m a fan of it. Matter of fact, in dwelling on this it occurred to me that ‘drastic’ is what I’m best at. I’ve changed my personal coaching and consulting to ‘DRASTIC CHANGE & RESULTS COACH’ (check it out if it sounds fitting for you). My past clients would attest that this is where I’m best and provided the most value…helping make drastic changes. Sometimes baby steps are best, but I’m just not that competent at them. I don’t do moderation well. I tend towards excess.
Right now. Here you are. You want a different reality. How about brainstorming some drastic changes, which are probably necessary to jar you out of your current reality (rut?) and toward your intended destination. I’m not talking about huge risk and throwing caution to the wind. There was no danger in my taking 45 minutes of my mornings to add in working out and do it for 123s straight. But it was a big alteration of my life.
Most every day for you is routine and is headed in a specific direction. Want to chart a new course? You’ll have to make some relatively drastic changes. A few degrees shift will usually result in barely making it up the curb and then…slide…right back into the old routine. You need a jolt. A big shift. Crash over the curb and escape your current inertia.